If you read this post then you are a kind of person that you expect respect from others. Whether you are a student or an office going person you will expect self-esteem from your friends or colleagues. The truth is everyone in this world would expect respect from others. It is one of the significant basic needs of every human being. This is why we are leading a happy and fulfilling life. However, you may do these 10 mistakes with or without knowing and people lose respect for you. Since people keep some or many of these 10 mistakes, they couldn’t lead a happy life. I am going to share with you these 10 mistakes, which is very useful in your life.
A low status life
A person who is too good at heart or do good things, is not respected by others. It is just because he doesn’t have money. He doesn’t have money, power or status. Yes, that is true! If you don’t have these 3, there are many chances that people lose respect for you. As Bill Gates says, ‘if you born poor, it is not your mistake, but if you die poor, it is your mistake’.
The problem is most people will be in their comfort zone. They don’t want to do anything new or challenging tasks. It is most simple and easy to become rich. If you are not able to become rich in this digital world, then it is definitely your mistake. Nowadays even people in village, are earning by using their knowledge and a mobile phone. If you sit in your comfort zone without trying anything new then you will not become rich. If you don’t become rich then there are lot of possibilities that people lose respect for you. Money is very important if you want to achieve something in your life.
Lying all the time
No one like the person who lies all the time for everything. The reason that they lie is to make sure that no one will think less about them. They used to lie even for unnecessary things. People don’t like these kinds of persons just because they are not trustworthy. Trust is an important factor to respect one. Trust and respect will work hand in hand. For instance, if the person often lies such as I am on the way, I will be reaching in few minutes but in reality, he will be still at home. If he gives false statements like this, in long term people will come to know that this person is lying obviously and finally lose respect on them.
On the other hand, if a person honestly says about his fears or short-comings, people start liking them. Now I am going to share with you a real-life example. Daring Greatly was a famous author once spoke about her vulnerability, fears and her problems openly. Initially she thought her authority will greatly impacted and her image will be affected. However, because she was very honest and true, people started liking her. If you want the others to respect you, you have to be frank all the time. Don’t need to hide anything. For this one reason, people start respecting and appreciating you.
No boundaries
I have a friend who is very flexible. He will move easily with elders as well as kids. He used to play with kids when he finds time. He won’t care about the age limit. But the point is, even the kids won’t respect him. This is because he didn’t set any boundaries. Think about this! If a person doesn’t set any boundaries, they won’t have any rules or don’t set any values. People will think that he will be available all the time and they will take it for granted. The best solution for this is that you should learn how to say ‘No’. You should not allow the people to take it for granted.
Always being available
If you are available for people all the time, definitely at one point of time you will lose your respect. For instance, our parents will always be available for us. They will always be with us. Hence, at some point we will lose respect for them. Even if you don’t think consciously, it will be there subconsciously. We won’t value them much as they are always available. In reality, humans like the things, which are in scarcity. The things such as limited-edition watch.
People attract over the things which are in limited edition. On the other hand, if something is always available such as oxygen or abundant in nature, we won’t care about it. Similarly, we should always be occasional. We should not always be available, however, there are some exceptions. Otherwise, your value will be reduced, which tends to lose your respect.
Talking too much
You should talk too less. We always have a friend who always talk much. Since he talks much, people won’t listen even if he gives any useful information. Consequently, the other friend who used to talk limited. People stop whatever they do and start listening to this person. As he talks rarely, it will be interesting and attracting too. If we talk much our value also will be reduced. Moreover, when we talk much, sometimes we may tend to speak something bad. We would have seen that smart people first think and then speak but stupid persons will first talk and then think. Be smart, people will give respect to you.
No respect to others
Reciprocity is nothing but you will get back whatever you give. For instance, if you gift someone on their birthday or help someone, they will give the same in return. Similarly, if you do anything bad to someone, they will do something bad to you or at least think to do. Something like tit for tat. As said, if you need respect from others, then you should respect them. However, if you don’t get respect from someone, then it is not necessary that you should respect them but it’s up to you.
Self-centeredness
You would have seen many people who are boasting about themselves. That is because they always think about themselves. Mostly, in a group discussion, others will be quiet because they know that this person is going to talk about himself. However, no one would like this kind of nature. Even if they don’t tell directly, they will disrespect him indirectly. Therefore, you should not be such kind of person. You should think about others as well. If you think about others and talk about them, then they will respect you for sure. You can get more information from the book ‘How to talk to anyone?’.
No talent or skills
Few days ago, I have seen a YouTube video in which a teenager who created bow and arrow on his own and caught fishes in a pond. He is not a rich person or not too smart but he has a good talent. Because of this people respected him and many shared his videos. Each one of us have one or many talents but we don’t know what it is. It will take some time to find what talent we have but if we come to know then we will achieve to greater heights within a year. Whatever unique skills we have will help attract others and because of this people start respecting you. Nowadays this is very important to be a talented and skillful person.
Having no confidence
People will usually tease and disrespect the person who is reserved and have no confidence. You may have many different talents or skills but if you are not confident on your opinion or decisions, people generally won’t respect you. This is clearly explained in a book called ‘No more Mr. nice guy’. Apparently, people who don’t have confidence doesn’t like to be on the spotlight, don’t seek other’s attention because they feel very inferior. On the other hand, if your body posture is perfect, speaks clearly, attending an event without hesitating and with full confidence – these signs will clearly show that he is very confident.
People who don’t have confidence and don’t know how to take decisions on certain things, they usually seek the person who is more confident. This is because they know that confident people take right decisions. As research says, people blindly believe the person who is having more confidence. Even if they take wrong decisions people will follow them as because they are confident. Moreover, people will definitely respect them. Therefore, be confident!
Having no knowledge
This era is one of the best times in history. You can do anything in this world with your mobile phone. You can consume as much as knowledge that you want. In the past decades, if you want to develop your knowledge you should go to library, or buy the books or need to attend any course. Nowadays, using your phone, you can easily attend any course even for free of cost. However, many are still not using it. If you have enough knowledge, you can earn more money from your home using your phone. Most people don’t do this because they don’t have enough knowledge and not even try to gain knowledge.
In the past whoever is more powerful or bring food and protect his family will be attracted and respected by others. But now is the knowledge-based economy. Only because of your knowledge you can earn money easily and protect your family. Knowledge has become a powerful commodity. If you don’t respect this commodity, no one will respect you. People do not take the words from an ordinary person but if he is a successful mentor, then everyone will consider and respect his words. Therefore, be a knowledgeable person to get respect from others.
